Yesterday, some familiar faces came to see me—
thank you so much to everyone who visited!
During a conversation after one of the sessions,
I found myself once again coming back to something I’ve said for years:
that the position of a dominatrix in the world of SM feels most accurate when seen as that of a lighthouse.
The lighthouse (the dominatrix) serves as a crucial navigational guide,
supporting the sailors (the deviants) in their voyage (daily lives) by offering non-ordinary experiences.
Even during the night (stress) or stormy weather (life’s troubles) when visibility is low,
the light of the lighthouse offers guidance—showing the presence of land (a place where their core selves are understood),
providing a sense of orientation and direction, and ultimately preventing accidents (emotional suppression, depression, even suicidal thoughts).
From a symbolic perspective:
- The lighthouse = the unwavering ruler
- The sailors = those seeking extraordinary experiences
Lighthouses come in many forms, shine in different ways, and stand in various places.
Likewise, sailors vary too—some travel short routes, some long; some stay on one route for life, while others change paths along the way.
One particularly interesting metaphor:
A lighthouse guides simply by “being there.”
But if you approach too closely, your ship may run aground.
That “appropriate distance” represents both the thrill and the safety of dominance and submission.
I don’t think this metaphor needs to be interpreted or overanalyzed—
just see it as one way of looking at things.
Still, it was such an enjoyable discussion and thought process that I wanted to write it down.
Today I have a session in Tokyo in the afternoon.
Before that, I’ve got a few things to take care of in Nagoya this morning—
then I’ll head to Tokyo.
Tomorrow, I’ll be golfing in Gunma, and after that, I’ll catch my flight.
My next appearance at Studio K will be on the 19th.
I’ve postponed my trip to Moscow until the end of summer,
so I’ll be in Japan for the rest of this month.
Let’s enjoy Studio K together from the 19th through the end of the month!
Looking forward to your visits and reservations.
